Thursday, October 18, 2012

Consequences

Another instance in which I haven't a clue as to what will end up on this entry...

Was thinking about a conversation I had with my son last night. He was very passionately expressing his feelings about the hype around the suicide of a teenage girl that his peers have been talking about recently - in short: he's annoyed by all of it.

A very short synopsis: this was a teenage girl who flashed her boobs on a web cam and had sex with a boy who had a girlfriend and therefore, suffered some major consequences as a result. Apparently the footage of her bare boobs was sent everywhere and the girlfriend and friends of the guy that the now-deceased teen said "hooked up with her," jumped her and filmed the beat down. On top of this she'd received hateful emails, posts, comments, etc. Eventually, she killed herself.

This girl took a perfect opportunity to be a spokeswoman for young women who engage in questionable activities on the internet and in school and flushed it down the toilet. She doesn't even know how lucky she was to have been "caught" that quickly and to have been held accountable for this behavior as soon as it happened. In my opinion, it was all a huge flashing neon sign that she had no business doing those kinds of things. That her life was to have been bigger, BETTER than all of that.

It appears this girl was starved for attention. Craved it, probably prayed and wished and hoped for it. Unfortunately, she got exactly what she thought she wanted, and couldn't handle it.


I'm in no way saying that she deserved what she got or that she doesn't deserve any sympathy. I'm saying that I wish teenagers - and a lot of ADULTS, really - would learn how useful negative experiences can be to their own development of maturity and wisdom. It's disturbing to me that this girl, who wasn't mature enough to bear hearing and reading negative words, couldn't bear to be, in essence, "called out" for things that she actually did, could think herself mature enough to have sex and show her body to a complete stranger.

It's unfortunate how unequipped this child was to handle the consequences of her actions. It makes me wonder if perhaps she got away with too much at home and wasn't used to having to answer for her mistakes.

But that's just my two cents.

Until Next Time,

XOXOXO

Jessika